The first time I walked into a counseling office, I broke down in tears. I had a lifetime of emotional pain, and my counselor’s first words to me were, “You are a sinner.” This response made me feel even worse, reinforcing the guilt I already carried.
Many Christians used to believe that emotional pain was always linked to a lack of faith. While it’s true that we all sin and need to respond to challenges, emotional pain is often more complex. Healing requires time and understanding, just like physical injuries. Quick fixes or oversimplified advice can harm the healing process.
Jesus showed us how to respond to pain with wisdom. He gently comforted those in need, like the woman in Luke 7, while rebuking the self-righteous Pharisees. He knew that different people require different approaches.
I eventually found a counselor who recognized that I didn’t need more guilt, but space to grieve and be validated. That understanding was key to my healing.
If you encounter someone in pain, listen without trying to fix them. Validate their feelings, and seek God’s wisdom before offering advice. Healing takes time, and sometimes, all a person needs is someone to sit with them in their hurt. May we respond with the love and grace that Jesus shows us.
