This story from Crawford Loritts’ life offers a powerful lesson about the consequences of uncontrolled anger and the importance of emotional self-regulation in our relationships. The near-disastrous moment when he walked out in anger, inadvertently shattering the glass door near his young son, Bryan, serves as a vivid reminder of how unchecked emotions can harm not only us but also those we love. It’s clear that Crawford’s reaction to that moment shaped a deeper understanding of how destructive anger can be when left unchecked.
Crawford makes an important distinction between anger as a God-given emotion and anger that turns into sin. Anger in itself isn’t wrong—it’s a natural feeling that arises in response to hurt, injustice, or frustration. The key is in how we manage it. When anger begins to control us, rather than us controlling it, that’s when it becomes harmful. This is the moment when relationships suffer, whether it’s with our spouse, children, friends, or coworkers.
The biblical perspective, as Crawford shares, aligns with James 1:19-20, which advises us to be “quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” It’s a call to pause and reflect before reacting. This approach encourages thoughtful listening, thoughtful speaking, and most importantly, self-control in moments of frustration. The reminder to “count the cost” of anger helps us realize that the emotional reaction might not be worth the harm it could cause.
What’s particularly insightful is Crawford’s personal commitment to preventing future outbursts by recalling this painful incident whenever he feels tempted by anger. It shows how personal reflection and learning from past mistakes can be tools for emotional growth and maturity.
Ultimately, the message here is about finding balance—understanding that anger is natural but choosing to respond with wisdom, patience, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. This can prevent unnecessary conflict and emotional waste, allowing us to foster healthier, more peaceful relationships.
